What Do People Think When You're Not In The Room

You were in a conversation with your friends, work partners or someone else, you talked about something, you said something your friends said something related to the topic you had in the conversation. But do you ever want to know about what’s your friend thought when you’re not there. You’ve already knew about what was your friend thought or comments before, when you were in the conversation, don’t you think that was that your friends real thought? I feel this many times. Did he / she actually say that statement? Or he / she just said like that because i was there? No matter how close you are with your friend, i think there is some part that your friend are so disagree with you, but just because of friendship reason your friend didn’t say what he / she actually want to say. They might think if they say their real thought it might be hurt you. Or reverse version, you are disagree with your friend but you don’t want to say your real opinion because it will hurt your friend. Things like this very quite often happen in our life.

I got this idea when i watched movie “ A Thousand Words “ when Eddie Murphy said what do people think when you’re not there. Damn, it’s real thing.

 

Let’s make it generally, you talk to anybody about anything at anytime and anywhere. You met someone on the bus while you’re on the way to somewhere, you both had some hot recent conversation topic . You’re involved with your “bus mate”, then at the same point you were disagreed, so much no about what he or she said. You had said that you’re disagree, you expressed your feeling, your reason to denied their opinions. While what you got were they kept holding tight their opinion. Just because they are older than you or that was first time meeting and happened on the bus you just can’t denied them in hard way. To push them to be agree with you. Then one of you get down from the bus, you may keep thinking about the topic that you had. You talk to somebody else, instead talk about the same topic , you talk about the person that you met and discuss the disagreement between two of you. In the other side, those person also do the same. But it could be not about disagreement, during the conversation let say you were just kept silent then when you are in different place and time you have in mind about the topic of the conversation. There is lot of examples. People may have different thought when come to different place and time or different interlocutors. 

We can’t blame it fellas, it just happens that people have different thought, opinion with us, when we’re there.

With your closest person, they may don’t want to show so much of disagreement  with you. Maybe they are not comfort to show what their actual opinion just because you are their family or best friend.

For other reason it might because polite impolite reason, what would you think you argue in a hard way with your interlocutors on the bus. Man, people will think you’re hell crazy people. For that reason, it will stop you to show your actual opinion which is good if what is going on is about disagreement. People will bring up their actual opinion in different place and time, or with another people whom they are neutral people. 

Neutral! 

When you are in neutral situation, you will comfort to show what you want to say. Without hurt people that involved with you in the conversation before.  

There always different opinion, thought. So what do people think when you’re not in the room? :)