Good at Giving Someone Advice, Bad at Giving Our Selves

When your friend asked you and told you about a problem that they are dealing with, that actually you don't know anything ( although you both are close friend ) you act like the one who know the problem, matter of fact you don't know anything.

Don’t know but know everything.

You don’t know about your friend problem but give him advice like you know every single thing of the problem. This kinda weird but it does happen. You give a very wise words to your friends, till your friend are influenced with your words so he can move on from his problem. You give a description through your words like any problems are solve able. You are swimming to his problem like you ever did before while you don’t know that ocean at all. You are pretend that you ever felt the same problem before but you don’t.

Pretend!

Don’t you think it’s all about pretending to be or act like someone that expert on some kind of problem? You are not living your friend problem, even you are very close friend for each other. But when you give your advice you are such of person who living the problem. You are pretend to be those such of person. Maybe it’s good think to give your real perspective about the problem to your friend. With the outcome could be a good advice that could push your friend or influence your friend to step up or move on from the problem that he has. Is that the power of words by pretending to be someone else or just because an approach of a friendship? Could be both. You pretend to know the problem, trying to be someone else ( your friend who have the problem ) to find an idea of the advice that you want to give the best for your friend, so that your friend get a courage to move on. It is normal and very good thing.

But what if it turns to your own zone? You are the one who living the problem. Can you put your own words about the problem to the problem that you get into? Some people are just can’t. Even in the same problem. Teenagers, they got broke up in love, their friends came with an advice and then there come a time for the problem came to their own zone, they couldn’t do anything. So should we need someone else to help us out? When actually we ever helped our friend about the same problem and solve out.

Courage!

The words it’s matter of courage, your advice or your friend advice are such a courage booster for us to step up and move on from the problem. It doesn’t matter if it’s the same problem or not. It motivates us, the advices is our motivation even it is the same advice that came from our own mouth and mind. Your friend are just give you the counter attack with the same weapon, we know it! You want to use the same words to handle your problems but seem everything become harder than our thought. The advice from someone else can be the courage booster for us to handle the problems. So i don’t think that we’re bad at giving ourselves an advice, we just need a courage in the form of an advice by someone else.